My blogging has been rather spartan just recently, sorry. I feel that I am once more moving positively forward with life after a month filled with grieving for the death of my father.
His memory is with me still as are some tangible reminders of his time, things he made or held from wood that he loved to work.
As is common at this time of year my one to one practice has been quieter than usual. It happens each year as people focus on getting away for their holidays and can think of little else. I know that within two weeks the phone will almost literally be ringing "off the hook" as people reflect on their position whilst away.
It seems that as human beings we need these times of reflection and contemplation to get an insight into what is most important. That reflective time might be your holiday or simply a gap in your work day, however you get it it is useful, restorative time to be embraced.
Is it time to reflect on what's most important in your life?
Friday 23 July 2010
Monday 5 July 2010
Life must move forwards
A little over one week ago, my Father died unexpectedly aged just 72. I know the stages of grieving and I knew what to expect but his passing hit me very hard indeed.
Mostly it was regret for things left undone. The trips that we should have taken together that were put off because finances or poor health seemed at the time to be insurmountable barriers. The stories that did not get written down or recorded of his younger days, the granddaughters and grandsons he will not see grow to maturity.
So I have in the last week been evaluating my own approach to life and have, in some areas, found that things could usefully change. For the most part it has been a realisation that even though we all know that our life is finite, none of us can know when it will end. Knowing that both emotionally and intellectually is very different from just being able to say the words.
I know that I will waste far less time on things that have no long term value for me or my family. This includes most of the things that the TV adverts would have us lusting after and spending our as yet unearned income on through the means of a credit card. Things hold little of real worth.
Friends, family, experiences and emotions carry far more value.
I know that I will miss my Dad for a long time, perhaps always, but the pain of missed opportunities will guide my actions and I think prompt me to make better life choices for now and the future.
No one can know when their life will end; if yours were to end next week, what things undone would you regret?
Got an answer? Then please take action on it now.
Mostly it was regret for things left undone. The trips that we should have taken together that were put off because finances or poor health seemed at the time to be insurmountable barriers. The stories that did not get written down or recorded of his younger days, the granddaughters and grandsons he will not see grow to maturity.
So I have in the last week been evaluating my own approach to life and have, in some areas, found that things could usefully change. For the most part it has been a realisation that even though we all know that our life is finite, none of us can know when it will end. Knowing that both emotionally and intellectually is very different from just being able to say the words.
I know that I will waste far less time on things that have no long term value for me or my family. This includes most of the things that the TV adverts would have us lusting after and spending our as yet unearned income on through the means of a credit card. Things hold little of real worth.
Friends, family, experiences and emotions carry far more value.
I know that I will miss my Dad for a long time, perhaps always, but the pain of missed opportunities will guide my actions and I think prompt me to make better life choices for now and the future.
No one can know when their life will end; if yours were to end next week, what things undone would you regret?
Got an answer? Then please take action on it now.
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